We all want to find boyfriends who truly love us. No one wants to be in a rebound relationship and no one wants to be used. Right? And indeed, there is a number of ways to know a guy who only wants you for that one reason – sex. However, many women sometimes ignore the obvious signs even when it is right in front of us. The reality is the more you ignore, the more you waste time and shy away from reality. However, you can save yourself the stress and heartache. Here are 13 ways to know a guy who only wants you for that one reason. Read on…
13 Ways To Spot A Guy Who Only Wants You For That One Reason
Before you decide to devote yourself to your relationship, firstly, you must know if he is totally into you. Or he wants you only for that one reason. If you don’t dare to face reality, know that the longer you hide behind the truth, the more pain you will have when you found out the truth.
You deserve the love you truly want. Now, let’s dive into the 13 ways to spot a guy who only wants you for that one reason.
1. He makes no real effort at communication:
This is one of the ways to spot a guy who only wants you for that one reason. A guy who seems too “busy” to call or text is not into you. No matter how you attempt to excuse it, no one is too busy to text or call.
A guy who wants you would make an effort and go out of his way to communicate with you by calling, texting or seeing you. If you find that he only calls or texts you once in a while (usually at night), it could be that you are just a booty call to him.
2. He doesn’t want you to meet his friends or family:
A guy who is falling in love with a girl would have no problem introducing her to his friends and family. Here is an obvious way to know he only wants you for that one reason.
If he keeps hiding you from his friends and family, this is a tell-tale sign and might be a very good reason to leave. If you want to find a good man.
3. He doesn’t make serious plans with you:
This is the point many women tend to ignore; however, it is a way to spot a guy who only wants you for that one reason. A guy that is not interested in a serious and committed relationship would show no interest in discussing his future with you.
When you discuss yours, it’s like he isn’t interested and does nothing to encourage or contribute to the conversation. A guy that is into you would want to discuss your future together.
4. Conversations seem forced or vague:
Do you find that you always have to initiate the communication and when you do talk, it’s like there is nothing much to talk about? And this might be a sign that he wants you only for that reason.
He will always be in a hurry to end contact and never goes out of his way to talk about something serious or personal. And this is also a sign that you are dating someone who is emotionally unavailable.
5. He doesn’t ask questions about you:
A person interested in another would want to know everything about them. From their likes, interests, and hobbies to their turn-offs and dislikes, etc. A guy who wants you would want to know everything about you.
If he asks no question, he probably doesn’t want to know. If you find that he shows no interest in the things that concern you and even forgets the ones you tell him; then he is just not interested in you. As other matters don’t concern a guy that wants just sex. It doesn’t matter what you do or say; he is only there for that one reason.
6. His compliments are usually sexual:
If he keeps giving compliments on how sexy you are or on the things he wants to do to you, he is probably just there for the physical part. Usually, most women would be so happy to hear such compliments and ignore the implications.
So if you hear compliments like such only, then it is a way to tell if a guy who only wants you for that reason. So, don’t ignore it.
7. He doesn’t seek your opinion:
Men love when their women who can offer honest opinions on matters that concern them. Because they want to hear your opinion and ideas; as this is one of the things men want in a relationship.
They are concerned about what you think of them as a person, their work or their hobbies even. However, a guy there for sex would not care about your opinion. He doesn’t want or seeks your advice. He also doesn’t want to hear your ideas. It doesn’t matter what you think or say. Once the sex is over, he is out.
8. He doesn’t touch or holds you in public:
If you find that he maintains personal space a lot when you are out, it might be that he doesn’t consider you are his. And also he doesn’t want any form of attachment.
He doesn’t want people to see you together as he only wants you for sex. You will find that he won’t kiss you or hold your hands when you are out. Even shy guys do not find it difficult to hold hands with their girls in public.
9. He cancels dates with no valid reason:
A guy using you would cancel plans with no reasonable excuse. Sometimes, he won’t even bother to cancel in advance.
You might find that he would constantly leave you standing and only remember to contact you when you do. If all this sounds familiar to you, then you are dating a guy who only wants you for that one reason.
10. He only calls you at specific times:
If he is only calling you in the night or at particular periods, it is probably because he just wants to have sex with you. He doesn’t pick your calls or texts and only calls back at odd hours.
A guy like that is most likely using you and doesn’t want anything serious. Hence, this is an obvious way to spot a guy who only wants you for that one reason.
11. He makes you pay for everything:
Men love to impress if they are with someone they truly care about. A guy that wants sex would make you pay when you go out on dates. He makes no serious effort to pay and keeps giving excuses like he left his wallet at home, or he hasn’t been paid at work.
Simply, he just doesn’t want to spend money because he thinks you aren’t worth it. If he is always giving excuses like that and yet keeps buying new and expensive things for himself; then he might be the guy who only wants you for that one reason.
12. He goes for sex straight away:
If he invites you over and goes for sex immediately, this might be the only reason he called you. He does not attempt to have a real date or do some other activities. He is only interested in one thing, and once that is over, he is ready to walk you off.
I know many ladies have such experience, but they always find excuses for the men, as they are blindly addicted to the wrong men.
13. He tells you directly:
The most obvious way to know if a guy who only wants you for that one reason. If he says things like he isn’t ready for a serious relationship, don’t try to prove that you are right for him.
It won’t work. Most women often rationalize and try so hard to prove to a guy that they are the right one for them. Remember this is not right, and you might just end up wasting your time.
Don’t fall for a guy who only wants you for that one reason! As this is not LOVE; true love should not be like this. Follow the above ways, and you will surely spot the guy who only wants you for that reason.
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