Learning from my own experience plus gaining knowledge from different relationship experts and coaches. I’ve figured out the golden rule to a ‘perfect’ relationship (though I don’t believe in ‘perfection’ you know what I mean).
Golden Rule: “Constantly expanding the awareness of yourself and your partner to create your own rules for your relationship.”
There is so many relationships advice out there, you must filter the info you’re reading. If you have been following my blogs, you’ll know that my intention here is to provide you with different perspectives and I don’t encourage you to just take it without thinking and putting into practicing.
Almost every woman believed that man like this kind of women: the woman who spent all her time to make yourself sexy and attractive, presenting herself as fun, interesting and not needy at all; showing him how wonderful his future could be when he is with her and so on…But the reality is different, it doesn’t work, and for many men, it will never work!
It is sad to say, sometimes he has not even noticed you despite you have done so much work.
Many women would label those men as immature jerks, who only take things for granted and never appreciate it until the good things gone…
Have you ever thought maybe it’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him?
The fact is that he won’t value it if he doesn’t work for the relationship. Because men are biologically wired to be competitive, they need to prove themselves and to WIN.
This explains why some women felt neglected or less important, as they never trigger men’s energy to chase them.
You probably heard one of the popular relationship advice is to play hard to get, I second this idea, it does work to a certain extent, as men value most are those things they have to work hard to get.
However, the BIG problem with playing hard to get is that this strategy will stop working once he’s actually got you.
I believe some of you’ve probably noticed it. This is one of the important factors that wreck your relationship, as he has already WON you. Then his mind is no longer being triggered to win you, instead, his mind is already on the next challenge.
If this sounds familiar to you, YOU ARE NOT Alone! Many women, almost all women experience this in their relationship. That’s why many women give up on love, they blocked themselves, as they don’t want to get hurt when they allow themselves being too close to a man.
Some of them even started to hate men, they couldn’t understand why they have been treated in such a way by men, even though they have done their best to be the women men want.
Regardless of how you think about love, man and relationship, I sincerely suggest you not to give up on love, relationship, and man…Instead of looking at it from another perspective and take a different approach.
Learned from relationship expert James Bauer, he highlighted this particular situation in his study, “a guy can be warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. He can lose interest so fast, no more time, no more smile, or even eye contact… “
Those are the signal that the man is backing away, as his needs were not satisfied.
The problem here is nothing wrong with the woman, rather, it all comes down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”
Most women actually push men away without even knowing it. Being women, we are the most beautiful creation of God, we are born to be kind, loving and caring.
Those wonderful characteristics can be the double-edged sword for a relationship, it makes a man feel loved and cared, but also takes something away from him if you express it in a wrong way.
When you are always there for him, take care of everything for him or be the woman he told you to be…You are actually falling into the trap, be careful!
By doing the above, you are slowly taking away his purpose – the purpose of being the HERO for his woman.
Being a hero is every man’s dream, maybe he can’t save the world like the superhero in reality, but he loves to be the hero for the girl who needs a hero.
Do you need a hero? I know many modern women would say NO, as we are strong, independent, we can take care of ourselves well. We don’t need anyone to protect us even though we love from the deepest of our hearts…
Well, those thoughts and behaviors explain exactly why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead.
How to make a man fall in love with you?
Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. Understand the key factor that man needs is to be the Hero.
Then make a man fall in love with became easier, if you know how to trigger his HERO instinct. Here are the 3 ways you can use to make a man fall in love with you!
1. Ask a guy for help
Even you know everything, don’t be the boss…Ask him for advice on technique stuff, like buying a new computer, how to fix your leaky pipe at home.
Ask him to reach something on the top shelf, ask him to carry some heavy stuff and so on…
Warning here; don’t use him as a slave! The idea here is to show him that there are spaces for a hero in your life. And remember to express your gratitude to him after each time he helps you.
2. Take pleasure in males company
Don’t use your feminine quality to judge a guy. It is perfectly okay to let him being a guy. Just enjoy time with the real guys.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? It is ok for him to spends hours on his fantasy football team.
And you should not judge when his shirt with the fewest wrinkles. Be fine when he eats and drinks like a ‘monster’? Just let him be…
3. Let him earn your respect
Don’t just hand your love to him easily! Keep the CHALLENGE going, as it is the VERY thing that man craves even more than a woman’s love!
You don’t have to do much work of winning him over, he needs to earn your respect and just give him the opportunities to prove himself. Don’t rush into things as he wants to earn it.
If that sounds like fun to you, keep reading useful articles from our blog. You’ll discover many golden nuggets to better your relationship.
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Now it’s your turn, watch the video and start to apply the above tips to enjoy the love you deserve!🙏🙏💕💕